I have been homemaking now just under 6 years, just after getting married I left my part time work in a now defunct home store to become a full time stay at home wife. Here are some of the things I wish I knew at the start of my journey.

There isn’t one way to homemake – while the image of a girl with pearls and curls may appeal to some, or the homesteader with chickens, or the sophisticated chignon wearing chic lady may come to mind – it’s okay to not fit one archetype. Media portrays housewives as all conforming to one ideal – and in my experience nothing could be further than the truth. I would tell my younger self not to worry about fitting a mold that society has shown of homemakers.

What you bring to the home is more than baked goods, and decor – it’s absolutely your spirit. Prayer, reflection, reading of scripture and rest are just as important and dutiful care towards laundry and cooking. This is something I wish I had known to begin with. The importance of homemaking is creating peace from a busy world whether it be in an apartment, a condo, a high rise or a country cottage. Homemaking isn’t a to do list alone.

Homemaking is not a race. While some women may have the background making sourdough, some may have been taught the art of hospitality, and some may have the gift of sewing or crafting – we are not in a competition – what skills you’ll pick up along the way are up to you – it is never too late and you never have to rush to pick up all these skills.

Homemaking can be looked down upon but hiding your calling and your vocation isn’t the answer. Having pride when someone asks you what you do is key. Hiding your truth (which I have done) doesn’t make for a happier heart or life. Let judgment wash away and know you’re doing something important.

All in all – I’ve learned so much. Homemaking is a deep calling, and knowing that you’re blessed to care for home and family and it is an honor – always respect yourself for those efforts – you will refine and get better with age.

With Love, Margaret